Lovability
“We all fear abandonment when we feel imperfect.” —The Complete Enneagram, p. 309
I used to experience this all the time as a singer when I would walk off stage after a mess up—my ego bruised, my head low—wondering if the band hated me for letting them down.
(Spoiler, they didn’t.)
But when I was happy with my performance, I’d float off stage on a cloud, fully embodying the adoration I thought I deserved.
Talk about a rollercoaster.
It’s been so healing to rest in a sense of self-worth and lovability regardless of my performance, on or off a stage. Believing people when they say they love me, just for me. Letting that truth wash over the parts of me that I used to hate. And, offering the same unconditional love in return.